Contributive Intimacy

Sex is a beautiful gift of the Lord, and is one of the ways that we can express our love within our marriage.  My husband and I have been married for just over eight years, and our sex life is still heightening.  One of the reasons is that we seek one another’s pleasure, not just our own.  As time goes on, we discover new things, and communicate what is pleasurable and what isn’t.  We contribute to one another in our intimacy.

His pleasure makes it more pleasurable for me, and my pleasure makes it more pleasurable for him.  In a sense, it’s like laughing with a friend - you start laughing because the other person is laughing, and vice versa until you are both beset by a fit of the giggles.  (Not the best analogy, but you get the idea.)

It makes for a rather nice dynamic in our marriage, and I am thankful for contributive intimacy.  It is a classic example of the benefits of a Christ-like love:  setting the other before yourself.  It seems backwards, but it brings you more joy.  God certainly makes the wisdom of this world foolish.  (1 Corinthians 1:19-31)